Anger is temporary state of madness. We are usually angry for what has happened in the past, or fighting with people to change them, or internal war as at times we regret our own faults and become angry on ourselves. The internal disharmony is projected upon others and we carry the baggage with ourselves.
We get angry because people and situation are not working according to us; but here we need to realize that it is actually impossible to change the situation or people around us. We just create bitterness within us and disturb our own thoughts.
Whenever you are angry, stop yourself and ask these few questions:
- Who is angry?
- Who is creating the anger?
- Who will suffer this anger?
- For how long should I do it?
By intrapersonal communication and self introspection we comprehend that to stay peaceful is in our own hands. Anger is our personal choice and it entirely depends on us that which kind of response we choose. Further we can follow these five basic steps:
“Awareness of the problem that is causing irritation, acknowledge that I am responsible for the irritation or frustration and it’s in my control, acceptance of the fact that I am the creator of my anger, assent by detaching myself from the anger through withdrawing the power given to anger, realizing that I am a peaceful and powerful soul and coming back to my original self.”